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Just about every day problems can come up with your friends, family,
and schoolmates. When you have a problem, what do you do?
I was here first. I was here first. I
was, I was, no, I was,
I was. Some people fight when they have
a problem. Little monsters and people too.
But there are lots of ways to solve problems without having to fight.
We can show you 5 ways to work things out without fighting.
Fighting is never fun, and it's not safe either,
and fighting never really solves a problem.
Fighting just makes things worse. Let's find out ways to solve
problems. Let's go.
One day Jen woke up late. It was a school day, and she'd have
to hurry to make the bus. She gathered up her homework, books,
pencils, and other things she needed for school and stuffed it all inside
her backpack. And then she ran out the door to the bus stop.
Meanwhile, Lucy was already at the bus stop. When the bus
arrived. Lucy got in line, got on the bus, and took a seat
by herself. Jen made the bus just in
time and sat down next to Lucy. Jen didn't
have time for breakfast, so she looked through her backpack for a granola bar.
But as she looked through her backpack, her elbow hit Lucy.
It was an accident, and Jen didn't even know she did it.
Lucy didn't say or do anything about it.
But all of a sudden Jen remembered that she had to bring her money in for
the field trip. Her mom put an envelope with the money inside on the
kitchen table last night. Did she remember to put it inside her
backpack? As she looked through her backpack? Her
elbow kept poking Lucy. Jen wasn't paying
attention, and Lucy thought she was doing it on purpose and got
mad. So she decided to poke Jen back with her
elbow. Jen got mad and poked Lucy on purpose.
Pretty soon they were poking each other back and forth, back and forth,
and it hurt. Oh, stop poking me.
You stop poking me. You stop first.
You stop, you started it. Little problems can easily
turn into a big fight, but it doesn't have to happen that way if you
keep your hands down and use your words.
Let's see how Lucy and Jen could avoid a fight and solve the
problem before it starts when they keep their hands down and
use their words.
Hey, why'd you poke me? Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know.
Hey, you're poking me again. Oh sorry, I'm trying to look for
something. Can I help? Sure.
Found it. Thank you for helping me. You're welcome.
You go, you go, you go. No,
you go. We
When you have a problem with someone else, you don't have to hit or
poke each other. Remember, hands down
and use your words. Lucy told
Jen that she was poking her. Jen told her it was an
accident. Use your words. Talk to each other.
It's a great way to work things out.
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Lots of times people get mad at things even when they don't know what really
happened and then they can blame and call names. You
took my cupcake, did not. Did
too. did not
When you blame, it makes people mad, and that can cause
fights. That's what happened one day when Danny
came home and found his older brother Alex and a friend playing with a
race car set. Right away. Danny thought it was his
race car set. Danny got angry and started to yell at his
brother. Hey, these are mine. You took them without asking. No, I
didn't. Yes, you did. They're not yours. Yes, they are. You took them. No, I
didn't. When you blame, it can cause a fight. What
could Danny have done so there wouldn't be a fight? Well,
he could find out about what's going on. He could
ask questions. Let's see how that could
work. Here's Danny asking a question first.
That's awesome. Let's try them with these cars. Hey, what are you guys doing?
Joebs race car set over. Really? It looks just like mine. No,
it's mine, but if you get yours, you could play too. This time,
Danny did not blame Alex. He asked a question and found out
that it was Joe's race car set. No
fighting, no one got hurt and everybody is happy.
Everyone get
And it's very easy to use hurtful words. But
you don't need
It leads to fighting fighting.
Yeah.
question
It's the smart thing to do.
When you have a problem, you can try an idea to solve it, but it
may not work, and it may not be the idea that works for everyone.
You may have to come up with different ideas. Give me the
box, please. Send it up.
OK. Keep your eye in the box.
That hurt. You can't catch.
You can't throw. You can't catch. You
can't throw. One day,
Grace and Sam were drawing pictures on the sidewalk with Grace's new sidewalk
chalk. They were both having a good time. Then Sam wanted to
use the blue colored chalk, but Grace was using it.
Can I use the blue chalk? I'm using it now, but I need to
finish my picture. Let me use it now and you could use it later.
Grace didn't like that idea. Is there something else they can
do? Why don't you draw another picture with another colored
chalk? That's an idea. Does Sam like it?
I don't want to. I want to finish this picture first. Sam didn't
like Grace's idea. Is there an idea they both like?
I know. Help me finish my picture, and then you can finish yours, OK.
Grace and Sam came up with an idea to solve their problem, and they
both liked it. Trying different ideas is a great way to solve a
problem and stop a fight. You
can come up with lots of ideas to solve problems. It's important to
find the idea that works for everyone and makes everyone happy.
That's how you can avoid a fight. Good idea.
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It's easy to argue and not.
problem
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Yeah.
Today we learned 5 ways to solve problems without fighting.
Don't hit or poke each other. Keep your hands down. That's #1.
Use your words and talk about the problem. That's number 2.
Number 3, don't blame. That gets people mad.
Ask questions, find out what's going on. That's number
4. And number 5, try
different ideas to solve the problem. Find one that makes
everyone happy. When you have a problem, you don't
have to fight, because now you know 5 great ways to work things
out. Oh, and here's just one more thing to know. If you can't
solve the problem yourself, ask a grown-up for help. That's